African King and Queen

If you follow my personal account (theafrikanking) on instagram, you'd see all my early mornings and late evenings runs. My journey routinely began as I want to be a positive role model for my brothers, peers and anyone who looks up to me. Also, as a healthcare provider, it is part of health promotion, therefore, I embraced and embarked on this ordeal since the winter of 2017 to present. I forgot to add that running is also stress relieving personally.

I'd admit that I haven't been consistent as I would like, but this running journey has been filled of great personal lessons of knowing what my body is capable of, and I'm amazed at the power of grit and positive mindset in accomplishing goals.

Each run is challenging in a special way, and every mile I earn teaches me to push harder and solidifies the fact that every purposeful goal comes with hard work and dedication; and that nothing comes easy. Sometimes waking up in the morning for a run after going to bed late takes a lot of give, positive self-talk and discipline. There're times when I lazily turn over and over in bed and do not go for a run, and other times I imagine how cold it could outside. But as time would go on, my level of discipline has positively inclined due to a couple of reasons. Before I get into that, allow me to tell you the most important advise I would give to anyone who plan to run the Brooklyn Half Marathon, as I had the opportunity to run with New York Road Runners (NYRR) Team for Kids.

Preparation is Key
Be prepared mentally and physically.
I prepared mentally and physically, but I must admit, I was more prepared physically upbeat than mentally, let me tell you why. I had run 2 half marathons prior to the Popular Brooklyn Half Marathon and I felt pretty good going into this race; I anticipated to run under 2 hours as I familiarized myself with the course map a couple of times, and I remember saying to myself "I got this". I say this with every challenge I go through, I guess to pump me up!

I did underestimated the impact of the the 40 degree rainy and moderately chilly weather. I arrived from New Jersey to Brooklyn, NY onetime to check in before 6am as the race was scheduled for 7am. It was cold and gingerly sprinkling rain with less threatening winds, and I was so underdressed. I didn't even have no poncho like most runners, and I depended on nearby trees to umbrella the rain from me.  What was I thinking? Other runner had garbage bags to cover themselves, and I said "how come I didn't think of that?". To make matters worse, I didn't run in a group and talked to a few people and this made to me to keep looking at my watch as the time gingerly moved.

This part wore me out mentally to the point where I was so eager to start, as I thought that would ease the weather in some miraculous way. Wrong! In spite of all of this, I was so pumped up when the race started, and  I wanted to get my well anticipated highly oxygenated blood flowing. I started well, and enjoyed the cheering of the crowds, and soon the rain became a norm.

At 5 miles, I had to take of my adidas sweater and throw it away. I miss it already. I can't believe I did that. I really liked that sweater, but doing this lightened my load, and I ran more enthusiastically, and a better pace.

As time would go on, I had allowed the surprising weather and the long wait time to get to me, so I didn't enjoy the middle of the race as much. Every now and then, I would have a non-pleasing thought about that, and I fought to stay positive as I ran.

Towards the last 4 miles, my mind was at the right place, each step was more purposeful, more like me, striding along, cheering with the crowd intermittently; but, I began to cramp in my right thigh, and sought to gatorade at each mile, and this was very helpful.

Giving up is not in my vocal, so I was there to meet my goal, I didn't quit or stop to walk. Pushed, and ran with each heartbeat, I inhaled and exhaled, and focused on crossing the finish line. I didn't doubt myself so I finished the race at 2 hours and 6 minutes.

With all this said, be prepared for whatever nature throws at you if you plan to run the Popular Brooklyn Half Marathon, and ultimately, enjoy the race. Enjoy your ability to challenge yourself in a race where others have not dared to try, enjoy your strength to meet your goal, and the passion to do something healthy for yourself. And if you run for charity, thats a positive attribute for you enjoy the race be it rain or shine.

I'll do it again next year, and next time, I will run to enjoy the moments of the race, and I plan to me more mentally prepared.

We are so thankful to God for another blessed year. The support of our families, friends and loved ones has fueled our resilience. Everyday we learn something new. Each day our babies have grown and are filling into their presence into this lifetime. It has been quite a journey, and watching them meet their milestones is so heartwarming. We cherish every single thing they do, for we know how tough this journey has been as new parents, and also premies. The joys, the stress, the anxieties, the novice mentality of not knowing what to expect have all solidified  our so called parenting skills.

Our due date is nearing by; soon, reality will begin to set in. We begin to realize that we need more room for all of us, not to mention, more space for all the things we would need! Also, our new lives we require getting two of everything. It's really happening, we would often say to each other. Still don't know why we were so shocked that things were moving as we prayed for, maybe we were overjoyed and drooled in the joys of parenthood.

God is always on our side.
We seem to do well in tougher situations, and God always sees us through.  We are the ideal couple to talk to if you don't believe in God, because our life story exemplifies God's grace. What are the odds that our next door neighbor who had a bigger place decides to move at the same time we begin to look for a bigger place? Not just that, everyone who hears that we are looking for a bigger place joins in to ready our new place, with new closet, new floors, new tub and on, and on, and on. The best part, we did not have to move far, and the transition was painless to the point that, everything would eventually go as planned.

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With a few good family members and friends we would move into our new spacious place, by God's grace. Although, once agin, it looks like we might need a bigger place, as our babies are growing and seem to have overtaken all the so called "space" we once had.

I would soon realize that a new responsibility as a hubby and a prerequisite for fatherhood; baby-shower planning. My way of expressing the joys of life, and the blessings in our lives is to celebrate. Its okay to say, I could sometime go overboard with planning events, but, life is precious, and I'm all about the unforgettable moments that are cherished a lifetime. With that said, the baby-shows had to speak for itself. Our first baby-shower, it had to be grand, it had to be classy, and most importantly, bring happiness and joy to my Queen.

Catch you on the next post!
Let's talk more about Our First Baby-shower.

Dennis &Lilian 

Looking back, and glancing through all the beautiful photos we took during our gestation, we unravel all sorts of emotions within us, and it awakens a deep sense of relief, and high sense of accomplishment. This, to write and share with you, gives us closure. We hope our blog inspires you. We wish we had kept blogging throughout journey, nonetheless, time constrains did not allow that. Still not to late to reflect and share with you all.