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So Imperfect, but, Perfectly in Love

We anticipated our due date in the later part of Spring this year, so we counted every second with eagerness, happiness, and a high sense of calm and accomplishment as we anticipated our seeds to take their first earthly breath. It felt good to think about hearing their first cry, touch and smell them, to see who they looked like : feel them within our soul and in the sole of our palms.

We barely had any names picked as we centered our curiosity more on their perceived personalities. We talked often about what traits they would embody, and prayed they engulfed our positive traits only. Thinking back, it really feels good to be writing about this. Not a single moment did we focus on something going wrong, there's really a uniqueness about positive thinking.

Anyway, during this process, I gained a new love and respect for my Queen, seeing first-hand the challenges she would face during her journey to motherhood, and how she overcame them, was really inspiring and enlightening to experience. I really enjoyed her maturity as a woman, her love, and her positive attitude in the midst of a high-risk pregnancy.

Her body transformed ( I don't know how many times i'm going to talk about her body) and so did  bodies of her seeds, as a soon to be mother, she cared for them with all her heart even before she met them. She would sing to them at night when they were so giddily racing with each other in utero-world. I would like to think I played an "ok role" being source to support and comforter, but she played the major role in nursing herself and her seeds making sure they synergistically benefited. 

We would go the medical appointments together, and we were both so eager to hear their 168- to - 169 racing heartbeats ; seeing them via 3D ultrasonography was so so cool and very assuring, and we felt blessed to hear the Physician say week after week "everything is fine". We came home each day after our appointments with copies of the ultrasound foto's and we plan to make a nice collage one day. 

I found myself calling her more during the day when we were both at work, more than before, I didn't worry more, I l loved more. As time went by, mummy would get tired more and more, but the woman she is, would work more, and give her all, and wouldn't let two new heartbeats slow her down. But the two new heartbeats came with demands, demands  that for the sake of their wellbeing and health, she had to take time of earlier than anticipated. A decision so tough, and challenging, but was the best choice for us all. 

She would later be admitted  for closer monitoring of her and her seeds. The hospital room became her new home until she would come Home. The warmth and hospitality from the staff at St. Joseph's Regional Medical Center, Paterson, NJ was heavenly, and we thank God for all the team involved in our care, they were beyond excellent, and most importantly SAFE. We couldn't have asked for a better place to care for us. 

An evening in March, we welcomed our son and daughter, after an emergency caesarian section. They came out with a bang. We had stayed at the hospital for quite sometime, and was being monitored meticulously by an amazing staff, therefore we knew were assured  that everything would be ok. Our babies stayed in the hospital approximately 54 days after being born. Seems like a long time, but it was vital that they did. Seeing them grow was witnessing God at work. 

We visited each day, and saw them grow every second, we didn't miss a beat. It was quite challenging to see them in the hospital not at home after their birth, but God's plan is always the best, we stayed positive throughout, and they reached their milestones one day at at time...........They turned 2 months today.
Thank you for Reading, 
Love Always, 
Lilian & Dennis 






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This is exciting to write about.
It feels good to write about our growth and challenges, and how we overcome and remain positive. It's exciting to know that what we write here will be read by you and our growing family. Lilian and I have so much to be grateful for, and we promise that our unintentional  absence from our blog is excusable.

It hasn't been our intent to  keep our blessings to ourselves, however on a night like this,  when it is half past midnight, and when we've tried all the tricks in the books to calm our two beautiful babies have been unsuccessful, insomnia niched in excitement gradually sets writing about our novice parenthood experiences the only alternative.

It all started during the last quarter of 2015,  when we found out that our prayers were answered, so we prayed more and kept praying towards our due date. The emotions were beyond euphoric, we had prayed for so long and talked so much about how eager we were at becoming parents. At times, we had been slightly discouraged, but deep down, we knew we served a Living God who wouldn't fail us. In an awkward wait felt good to be able to limit others from continually asking, "When are you having children"?  Honestly, it was one of the toughest questions we've had to deal with. 

I was at home when Lilian called from work and told me the good news,  I was ecstatic, so much so that I sent her a video of my silliness at home; dancing, screaming and goofing of as usual. What a feeling!!!  Our lives changed from that very moment, our thoughts, our perceptions on life and family took an interesting turn. We smiled more, walked shoulder high, with more swagger than the usual, became closer, because deep down in our heart, it felt so good knowing we would soon be parents.

I enjoyed the transformation in Lilian so much, she touched her belly often, and I caught her in-front of the mirror more, and more as she loved her body transformation; also she meticulously watched every matter she digested. As her body transformed, her skin glowed and her teeth whitened and she gained a new silly giggle and silliness; however, she gradually got tired more, and attempted to eat more in the midst of nausea and constipation, which was tough to deal with. Most impressively, she kept on, worked 5 days or so every week, and I often wondered how she got through her days at work with such a workload.

I haven't taken that many pictures and videos as much as I did during this process, I took pictures and videos, daily as I anticipated each day with more poise than before. We tracked each second with What to Expect App  and wrote down some remarkable memories. We found the app very helpful, as  we got daily and weekly notifications of growth, expectations and and recorded our appointments with our OB/GYN team meticulously. In the midst of our excitement and enthusiasm, it was clear to us that becoming parents would be challenging, transformational as demanding, so we leaned more to positive thinking and knew that our family would be supportive as well, most importantly we believed God would be on our side.

A month passed, and two and three, and we finally decided to let the cat out of the of the bag, we couldn't hide Lilian's bump any longer. For three months we both avoided social gatherings as much as possible and enjoyed the high suspiciousness that lingered in the hearts of our parents. At times we got close to being caught, but we used denial as a successful tool.

On thanksgiving 2015, we shared the great news with our family, and the joy, happiness and thrill is still pulsatile in our thoughts. We sang and danced and cheered, shed some tears of joy, hugged and prayed to God for an answered prayer, and most importantly, prayed for our "seed" and the love we share to grow endlessly.

We took a trip to California, and spent some time with our friends and hid our secret well, but suspiciously. In December, 2015, we came to accept that it was impossible to hide, so sent postcards to our close friends and family to share our joy with them. We kept another secret though. Secret we shared with our family on Christmas- "we're expecting twins !" 




Than You For Reading. 
Love Always, 
Lilian & Dennis 





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